Old Farts Dating Younger Women – 4 Steps For Success
By Darryl Hurst

Sooner or later a guy falls into the category of old fart and although this is a relative term, the same as May-December is in describing a particular type of relationship, it can be a challenge for some men to deal with, especially if they are interested in dating a much younger woman. In this article I will discuss four important areas for a greater possibility of success-the right mindset, flirting, first dates and capturing her heart.

It’s really important to be comfortable with yourself first and not be depressed about the fact that you’re not as young as you used to be. You may have many wonderful attributes that some women will find quite appealing. That’s why May-December relationships happen! Sure, you may not be attractive to all women, but some women just like the idea of an older guy in their life, so play it out! If you have been out of the dating scene for awhile, you may have picked up some bad personal habits like sloppy dressing, forgetting to shave, and using colorful language. Work on these things and be a charming old fart.

It’s not necessary to reinvent your life or try to be something you aren’t, in fact if you dress like someone 20 years younger you may just look foolish doing so. Be honest. When shopping for new clothes find a younger sales lady and ask her to help you pick something out that she thinks would look good on you. Or ask a younger woman at work to help you find the right clothes. Take her out to lunch for helping you out, most women love to shop and don’t forget to tell her why you want new clothes, for dating! Who knows it may spark her interest in you. Getting a new look will also help you feel more confident inside.

Forget the canned pickup lines or a course in how to get more women to obey your every wish. Just be yourself and don’t worry about being nervous, it’s normal and most women find it cute if you’re a little nervous. If you’re really are scared get a self-hypnosis course on confidence, they really work.

Flirting is a lot easier for some men than for others but it’s necessary if you want a successful dating life. You have to communicate and do so without coming off as boring or a jerk. One good way is to get in the habit of admiring something that a woman is wearing or a new hairstyle. And it doesn’t have to be a woman you are interested in dating, just make it a habit to compliment women on their appearance whenever the occasion presents itself. And don’t overdo it, just a little remark like, “That’s a great new look for you!” will do it.

If you shop in the same grocery or pharmacy compliment the salesladies you see regularly, you will get the reputation of being a nice guy and friendly. Once again don’t overdo this, it is their job, so you don’t want to get them in trouble for talking too much. You are just getting in the practice of “breaking the ice” when a possible dating situation occurs.If you are really shy, join Toastmasters! It will definitely help you get out of your shell and feel at ease talking to anyone.

When picking a place for your first date or two, keep it very casual. If the weather is nice, a walk in the park and coffee is good or perhaps a farmers market. And walking will help with the jitters, if you have them. You want to be able to communicate and get to know each other so a movie is not a good idea. Also, if there is a big age difference between you and her, don’t hang out with her friends or your friends. Sooner or later someone will make a remark about your age differences and it will just be uncomfortable. Get to know each other first and if it works out, you won’t care what others think!

Workout dates are maybe not a good idea unless you are as fit as her. Serious athletes focus on their workouts and it tends not to be a casual activity. Try lounging by a pool and talking about working out! Also, if you wish to take her somewhere for lunch that is some distance away, make sure she is comfortable with that. If she is, the drive will be a good chance for talking. You want to be able to stand out from the other guys she dates and being older is an advantage if you’ve learned some cool things over the years, like wine tasting or knowledge of antiques or art. Just don’t come off as a know-it-all and turn her off. Let her casually see that you are quite talented and being with you is a rewarding experience.

When you’ve been together a few times a little gift would be nice, but I think staying away from flowers is a good idea at first. You want to let her know you are a sweet guy and a little gift when you pick her up for a date would be cool. If you have paid attention when you were out with her before, you may remember an item that she thought was cute. Gem shops are a great place to find something pretty and inexpensive. By now you may know her favorite colors, or you can always find something the color of her eyes, do you get it? Unless she is really into expensive things, you don’t have to overdo the spending and it could be a turnoff anyway. If you can afford expensive gifts, wait for awhile. You can learn more about people by the
simple things in life.

I believe that you will find out that as an old fart, dating younger women is not much different than dating someone your own age! It’s all about what you prefer and desire in your life. Start with learning about yourself, get a notebook and list all of your cool strong points and your weaknesses as well. You’ll always have room for improvement in all areas of your life, but starting with a new look as I had mentioned earlier is a great way to begin.

Getting out of yourself by flirting is mostly an observation game and practice in your communication skills. Being casual and laid back is the perfect way to begin a romance and it is much better to take a stroll with her than to get into the “this is going to be a date-yikes” mindset. Little things at the right time work much better than overkill in the gifts department and will help you to not only know her better, but will show her what a sweet and caring guy you are.

Darryl was somewhat of a reluctant OF, but has finally decided to accept it and get on with living!

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