Archives for the day of: December 5, 2011

whether your partner really loves you…

1. Strength. A person who truly loves someone put all his might to the one he loves. If you notice that your guy or girl suddenly feels weak (or colloquially feels like dying) when you have done something to hurt him or her, then it’s an indication that your partner loves you and has placed all his power on you.

2. Joy. A man who falls in love transfers his happiness to the happiness of another. In other words, your true happiness is his priority, even if it means sacrificing his own happiness. So if your partner got a $1,000 bonus and spend it by buying you a nice necklace you’ve been wanting instead of acquiring the gadget he wanted to have this month, then your partner is really falling in love with you.

3. Enthusiasm. Let’s admit it! When we love someone, we are very interested in them. If your guy historically hates to watch romantic and crying movies, but enjoys when he watch one of those kind of movies with you at the theater, then it’s a sign that you can turn his mode and interest – he loves you.

4. Realized dream. Dreaming someone doesn’t absolutely means loving someone. But if you consider a person as your dream came true, then it’s a different story. If your partner is a sleeper and a dreamer, but can hardly close his own eyes to sleep when your beside him, and when he enjoys staring at you while you are sleep, then it could be a sign that he don’t need to dream anymore – because his dream (you) has already come into reality. He is happy, contented and really loves you.

5. Fear. When we love somebody, we serve him. Likewise, when we serve somebody, we fear him. What does this means? This means that you can identify a person if he indeed loves you if he is afraid to do anything that will destroy your relationship with him. If someone really loves you, he has fear that creates his care for you.

6. Transformation. This means exiting from the bad world and saying hello to the realm of love and kindness. True love brings and binds all the good virtues of a person, such as humility, patience, honesty, gentleness, peacefulness and self-control. If you observe that your sweetheart starts quitting smoking, begins cleaning his messy room and losing interest in going to nightclubs and wild parties, then it could be an excellent symptom that your dear has a real love for you.

7. Future. Does he or she keeps on talking about his or her plans for the two of you, including your future children? Does your honey really discussing real and attainable plans? Is he already executing the initial steps and procedures to realize those plans? If your answers to those questions are affirmative, then you are blessed to have him.

8. Sight. People can feel affection at first sight. But does it mean we should only have love at first sight? If your partner is always looking at you like it was always love at first sight for him, then you are not just the apple of his eyes, but also the love of his heart.

9. Time. Time is gold because it is so precious that when lost, it never be found again. That is why you can recognize someone who is really in love when he can give you his precious time. If your boyfriend or girlfriend is always telling you on the phone that he or she always misses you but never cares to visit you, then it could be a red flag for words without means. But if he can cancel his hectic schedules just to see you, then you are a more precious gem to him – more valuable than gold.

10. Mystery. It’s your birthday, so he has given you a presence. Then it’s your third year anniversary, so he bought you a diamond ring, a bunch of red roses, and brought you in the most quixotic restaurant in town for a romantic dinner. That’s good that he has a great memory to remember your special dates in the calendar. Alas, this is not a definite sign that he truly loves you, especially when he becomes bitter on the ordinary days. Have you experienced moments when your husband gives you your most favorite chocolates, some fresh flowers, embrace you and tell you sweetly that he loves you? And you wonder why he did that since it is neither your birthday nor it is Valentine’s Day? Well, it maybe a mystery but it is the mystery of love. People who truthfully love someone automatically do the feat of love anywhere and in anytime.

11. Compromise. Pride, selfishness and greed are all indications of the absence of love. But sometimes we are contaminated by these tough forces of evil. Here, true love is shown when we can compromise these things and instead turn to the rebuke of humility, selflessness and kindness. If your wife admits her mistake and shallow her pride to preserve your relationship in harmony and in peace, then you are fortunate to have her as a loving wife. Remember that pride is different from honor, for the first may defend what is wrong and the latter only defends what is right.

12. Mixture. Finally, you can tell that your partner really loves you if he loves to be part of your family. If he is excited to meet your parents, friends and even your old classmates; and if he is also keen to introduce you to his parents and buddies, then it is a great sign that your partner is seriously in love with you.

Now, does your partner have any or all of the signs above? If yes, then that’s great! But why not also assess yourself if you are also a partner who really loves him or her? Don’t forget that you can always improve yourself from a good lover to a great lover

No woman marries for money; they are all clever enough, before marrying a millionaire, to fall in love with him first.
– Cesare Pavese

There is in every true woman’s heart a spark of heavenly fire, which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity, but which kindles up and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity.
– Washington Irving

In the sex-war, thoughtlessness is a weapon of the male, vindictiveness of the female. Both are reciprocally generated, but a woman’s desire for revenge outlasts all other emotion. Yet when every unkind word about women has been said, we have still to admit, with Byron, that they are nicer than men. They are more devoted, more unselfish and more emotionally sincere. When the long fuse of cruelty, deceit and revenge is set alight, it is male thoughtlessness which has fired it.
– Cyril Connolly

A woman is as old as she looks before breakfast.
– Edgar Watson Howe

Fraily, thy name is woman!
– William Shakespeare

In the beginning, said a Persian poet – Allah took a rose, a lily, a dove, a serpent, a little honey, a Dead Sea apple, and a handful of clay. When he looked at the amalgram – it was a woman.
– William Sharp

The fickleness of the woman I love is only equalled by the infernal constancy of the women who love me.
– George Bernard Shaw

Woman’s dearest delight is to wound Man’s self-conceit, though Man’s dearest delight is to gratify hers.
– George Bernard Shaw

A woman either loves or hates: she knows no medium.
– Syrus

Regard the society of women as a necessary unpleasantness of social life, and avoid it as much as possible.
– Leo Tolstoy

There is no such thing as romance in our day, women have become too brilliant; nothing spoils a romance so much as a sense of humor in the woman.
– Oscar Wilde

She was a Phantom of delight When first she gleamed upon my sight; A lovely Apparition, sent To be a moment’s ornament.
– William Wordsworth

“May You Always Have an Angel”

The secret to learning love is not to find a true lover, it is to practice loving.

Love unites all the good virtues of a person, so how can you say you love me if you are being rude?

The secret to make people love you is to show them that you are abundant of love.

The secret of love is that it should not be made a secret.

The secret to love yourself is to keep yourself away from selfishness.

Love is not just trusting; it is more on being trustworthy.

Love is not all about saying sorry; it is more on preventing actions that will cause you to say sorry.

If you are a material person, how can you believe in love, which is a spiritual thing?

Love is not actually blind; it’s only bright beyond the naked eyes.

Love is conditional; the only condition is to continue on loving.

Love does not give absolute freedom; it is a slave of kindness and righteousness.

Pride dwindles love, while humility makes love abound.

The law of love is the father of all good laws.

Love is the oldest subject everyone has not yet able to learn.

Love is the power of God; now God wants us to have that power.

Love without knowing isn’t love, because love is the answer.

Love is a practice everyone should be practicing in all of his life.

Love is the one thing you must do before you die.

Love helps us, but we must also help love. For love to work, we need to work with love.

Love is not saying I miss you. Love is being with you.

12 Pieces of Christmas Trivia
1. In 1836, Alabama became the first state to recognize December 25 as a legal holiday. It didn’t become a federal holiday until 1870.

2. Because Christmas trees used to be decorated with real candles, people used to keep water-filled containers near their Christmas tree.

3. Workers in the construction industry are responsible for the tradition of having a Christmas tree on display at Rockefeller Center in New York City. They are credited with placing an undecorated tree at the site in the early 1930s.

4. Since the mid-1960s, The National Christmas Tree Association has donated a Christmas tree to the First Family to decorate the White House.

5. The former Woolworth department store first sold manufactured Christmas tree ornaments in 1880.

6. The first mass-produced Christmas greeting card was printed in Britain in the late 1830s.

7. The use of Xmas for Christmas has been used for hundreds of years and is derived from the Greek word ‘Xristos,’ which means Christ.

8. According to the National Confectioners Association, candy canes were white only (no stripes) for about 200 years. The now-familiar red-and-white stripes first started appearing after 1900.

9. Santa’s wife, Mrs. Claus, was first mentioned in print by the poet Katherine Lee Bates, who wrote a poem called “Goody Santa Claus On A Sleigh Ride” in 1889.

10. Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer was originally written as a promotional giveaway for Montgomery Ward department stores.

11. The real Saint Nicholas was born in the part of the world that is now known as Turkey.

12. The US Congress was in session on Christmas Day, 1789, the first Christmas to be observed under the country’s new constitution.

8 Tips To Avoid Contacting Your Ex This Holiday Season
Ami Angelowicz
November 29, 2011

1. Erase all ex numbers from you phone and hide all applicable profiles on Facebook. It’s like keeping ice cream out of your fridge if you’re on a diet. If you know you are susceptible to bouts of delusional holiday nostalgia, protect yourself by ex-proofing all electronic devices. I like to erase all “high risk” phone numbers and write them in a journal with a list of all of his most undesirable traits next to it. That way, if I have the urge to send a text, I am instantly reminded of all the reasons I shouldn’t.

2. Exercise a lot. You will be accomplishing a few things at once; keeping your mind occupied, staying healthy, and spending time away from all ex-proofed electronic devices.

3. Emotionally eat and drink (a little). Don’t eat the whole pie or drink the whole bottle, but a little indulgence will make you feel merry, not to mention that sugar rush. Provided you are exercising enough (see #2), the physical repercussions should be minimal and the emotional repercussions are less severe than ex encounters.

4. Spread your joy, not your legs. Nothing puts priorities in focus like a little do-gooding. Volunteer at a food bank, buy a present for a needy child, or visit a nursing home. Suddenly, feeling sorry for yourself that you’re single will feel lame. And you’ll be reminded of how selfish your ex was. That bastard.

5. Give yourself the gift of makeover. Depending on your budget of course, give yourself a present that you can afford. Get a new haircut, a pair of heels, a dress, a mani-pedi, or a sparkly trinket to make yourself feel hot and open to new prospects should Santa and his elves be so kind as to send them. You wrote him a letter, right? Hope he got it.

6. Make the yule tide gay. Literally. Hang out with your gay boyfriend and not your ex boyfriend. Keep your dance card full of activities that you like to do with a male person you like to do them with. Ice skating, karaoke, or shopping will be way more fabulous.

7. Make a list and check it twice. Put together a list of all the reasons he’s naughty and doesn’t deserve to hear from a good girl like you ever again. Then toss it into the fire along with those chestnuts. If your brother finds it, he’ll never let you live it down.

8. Make plans and backup plans, and backups to the backup plans. Boredom leads to bad decisions. Make sure you know who is around over the holidays to deck the halls with and who is available to emergency phone calls should you find your resolve caving at 2 am after a viewing of “An Affair To Remember.”