Archives for the month of: November, 2012

Saudi Stores To Let Women Sell Undergarments

 

For years, women in Saudi Arabia have had to buy their lingerie from men. Since men and women are segregated in many areas of Saudi society, women generally can’t work in malls and stores — unless the store caters to women only.

As Bloomberg reports, Saudi Arabia’s King Abdullah has said that he intends to make it possible for more women to have jobs, and he has now decreed that “shops selling women’s necessities” should only be staffed by women. The Labor Minister has set an end-of-the-year deadline for stores to comply.

The decree is good news for Saudi women seeking employment, as Saudi Arabia’s female employment rate is currently the lowest of the six nations in the Gulf Cooperation Council.

  • In 2008, it is estimated that only 12% of Saudi women were employed
  • Whereas the female employment rate is 25% in Qatar and 28% in the United Arab Emirates
  • In the U.S., the employment rate for women 20 years of age and older is 55%

“It’s a good thing to happen, but it requires planning.” — Ghaith Azzam, brand manager for La Vie En Rose


Store owners planning to make the switch to an all-female sales staff are considering various measures to prevent men from gawking at the saleswomen.

  • “Families Only” signs may be posted
  • Male guards might be stationed at the store entrance
  • Store windows may be covered with heavy curtains, so men can’t peer inside

Not only will more Saudi women be employed due to the new directive, but Saudi shoppers will no longer have to consult men about panties and bra sizes. Women have wanted the change for years, even campaigning for it through Facebook postings and letters to lingerie stores.

A directive similar to this one was issued in 2006 but never carried out, mostly due to the objections of religious conservatives.

http://www.20-first.com/1528-0-saudi-stores-to-let-women-sell-undergarments.html

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Ekvall, the former Miss Venezuela who finished third in the Miss Universe pageant in 2001,has died of breast cancer aged 28.

Aged 17, Ekvall was crowned Miss Venezuela of 2000, and the next year was third runner-up in the Miss Universe Pageant. Her name was also listed as one of the most beautiful & most sexiest women in earth. As a Buddhist, she was the first non-Christian to have won the title of Miss Venezuela.

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Ekvall was married to the radio producer John Fabio Bermudez and the couple had a 2-year-old daughter. In February 2010, just months after giving birth to her child, Ekvall was diagnosed with advanced breast cancer, and underwent eight months of treatment that included chemotherapy, radiotherapy and a double radical mastectomy.

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Last year, she told newspaper El Nacional of her need to send out a message about cancer prevention. And the model explained, “I hate to see photos in which I come out ugly. But you know what? Nobody ever said cancer is pretty or that I should look like Miss Venezuela when I have cancer”.

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She chronicled this experience in a book of photographs, Fuera de Foco (Out of Focus), released on December 2010. She went on to become an advocate for Senos Ayuda, a cancer awareness group.

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Pics of her last days…

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In a heart-breaking Twitter post over the weekend, Eva’s husband posted a photo showing a close-up of his hand holding hers at her last moment, with the caption, “Always together … I love you wife”.

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Her family has confirmed the model passed away at a hospital in Houston on Saturday (December 17, 2011), according to the Huffington Post.

Everything in life is temporary, because everything changes…
That’s why it takes great courage to love, knowing it might end anytime but having the faith it will last forever…

 


Time passes. Life happens. Distance separates. Children grow up. Jobs come and go. Love waxes and wanes. Men don’t do what they’re supposed to do. Hearts break. Parents die. Colleagues forget favors. Careers end. BUT…. Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you. A girl friend is never farther away than needing her can reach. When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley’s rim, cheering you on and praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley’s end. Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you… Or come in and carry you out. Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family, all bless our life!

The world wouldn’t be the same without women, and neither would I. When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other. Every day, we need each other still. Let us celebrate all the women who help make our lives meaningful!

May you all be  Blessed!

“Be kinder than necessary, For everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle”


IN MEMORY . . .

These are the colours that represent the different cancers. All you are asked to do is keep this circulating. Even if it’s to one more person. In memory of anyone you know that has been struck by cancer.
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A Candle Loses Nothing by Lighting Another Candle
Please Keep The Candle Going!
This one I do ask that you please send on.

How Perfectionism Hurts Relationships Perfectionist
Traits Usually Prevent Healthy Relationship Formation
I would argue that the will to become a better person and a better partner may be the most desirable asset anyone can bring to a marriage. However, starting out as or striving to become the “perfect” partner is neither possible nor desirable. In fact, strong perfectionist traits usually prevent healthy relationship formation.

Rather than experiencing a full and healthy range of emotions, a perfectionist often vacillates between two primary emotions—dread and relief. The roller-coastering pattern of dread and relief endlessly repeats itself in the life of a non-recovered perfectionist, and spouses and children are often the unhappy passengers of this not-so-thrilling ride.

In fact, perfectionists spend most of their time dreading the next potential failure, and successes are met with a feeling of temporary relief, rather than with a feeling of satisfaction in having done a thing well. Self-esteem does not build from feelings of relief, or the temporary reprieve of having succeeded at something. Lacking a deep and consistent source of self-esteem, failures hit especially hard for perfectionists, and may lead to long bouts of depression and withdrawal in some individuals.
Further, perfectionist individuals are often hypersensitive to perceived rejection or possible evidence of failure, and there is a fundamental rigidity in the relentless stance of bracing for failure. Unfortunately, when an individual is caught up in the bondage of perfectionist striving, that person is likely to be less interested in developing a healthy, mutually satisfying marriage and more interested in chasing the elusive rabbit in his or her own head.

Along these lines, partners of perfectionist individuals often comment on their partner’s emotional unavailability. It is very hard for a perfectionist to share his or her internal experience with a partner. Perfectionists often feel that they must always be strong and incontrol of their emotions. A perfectionist may avoid talking about personal fears, inadequacies, insecurities, and disappointments with others, even with those with whom they are closest. Naturally, this greatly limits emotional intimacy in a marriage.

Perfectionist individuals can also be fiercely competitive, even with their partners. Feelings of inadequacy may set the stage for downward social comparison within their own homes (“at least I’m more successful than my wife is”). Celebrating the victories of a spouse may be especially hard if such success threatens a perfectionist partner’s sense of being “the more competent partner” in the relationship.

The exhaustion that comes from striving to be perfect can also lead a perfectionistic individual to give up in the face of obstacles. Related to this, I’ve worked with a number of patients who classify themselves as perfectionists. At the same time, pictures they’ve shown me of their home environments sometimes look like the homes of hoarders. At first, it may seem puzzling that a person who lives in squalor could identify him or herself as a “perfectionist.” However, if a driving factor in an individual’s psyche is the thought, “it I can’t do it perfectly, I don’t even want to do it at all,” then the living conditions of such perfectionists makes sense.

Perfectionism and Marriage, for Equals

A marriage of equals is hard to create when one (or both) partner(s) are perfectionists. A marriage of equals is a partnership between two people who see each other as true equals. Not only must they be true equals, but both must be open to influencing each other continuously in order to become perfect for, and irreplaceable to, each other.

As I have argued in my book (www.marriageforequals.com), the way to partner with a soul mate is not to arrive as the perfect match for each other, but to become this over time. The key is how you will shape each other in the marriage as your life together unfolds. Mutual growth towards this end requires each partner to express a full range of emotions, including feelings associated with a sense of personal vulnerability.

Giving and receiving feedback about the impact we have on each other calls for unconditional self-esteem that does not over-depend on others’ evaluations of us. The self-esteem we derive from living a life consistent with our deepest values gives us the emotional freedom to learn and grow without fearing the shame of rejection. Striving for perfection leaves us empty and unstable, foundering like ships without anchors in a turbulent ocean.

What if you are a Perfectionist?

Perfectionism can be treated in therapy. Some of the same treatments that work for individuals with obsessive compulsive personality features have equal potency in the treatment of perfectionism. Any treatment that works requires you to initially tolerate significant anxiety and ultimately befriend the awareness of personal imperfection.

When perfectionism has been conquered, healthy self-esteem can flower, and when it does, you are much more likely to attract someone with the potential and desire to work at becoming the perfect partner for you (as opposed to the perfect human being).

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-joint-adventures-well-educated-couples/201209/how-perfectionism-hurts-relationships

GOD
Said NO – This is sooo neat

I asked God to take
away

My habit.

God said, No.

It is not for me to take away,

But for you to give it up.

I asked God to make my handicapped child whole.

God said, No.

His spirit is whole, his body is only temporary.

I asked God to grant me patience.

God said, No. Patience is a byproduct of tribulations;

It isn’t granted, it is learned.

I ask ed God to give me happiness.

God said, No.

I give you blessings;

Happiness is up to you.

I asked God to spare me pain.

God said, No.

Suffering draws you apart from

Worldly cares and brings you closer to me.

I asked God to make my spirit grow.

God said, No. You must grow on your own, but I will prune
you to make you fruitful.

I asked God for all things

That I might enjoy life.

God said, No.

I will give you life,

So that you may enjoy all things.

I asked God to help me LOVE others, as much as He loves me.

God said…Ahhhh,

Finally you have the idea.

If you love God, send this to ten people and back to the person
that sent it.

THIS DAY IS YOURS

DON’T THROW IT AWAY

May God Bless You,

‘To the world you might be one person,

But to one person you just might be the world’

‘May the Lord Bless you and keep you,

May the Lord Make his face shine upon you,

And give you Peace……Forever’

‘Good friends are like stars…

You don’t always see them, But you know they are always there.